Twins of the month: Betty and Edie

betandedThis month we meet Rebecca Lewis’ twins Betty and Edie

Twins names – Bethan and Edith (Betty and Edie)

Age – 18 months actual. The girls were 3 months premature so 15 months corrected age

Birthday – December. Betty and Edie were due in March but ended up being Christmas babies!

Identical or fraternal? Fraternal

Favourite activity – Climbing, giggling, clapping and eating! There’s a lot going on at the moment!

A bit about mum and dad – I recently left my job as an HR Systems Analyst to look after the girls full time. My husband Dan is an HR Manager for a financial services firm.

Buggy – Out and About Nipper 360.  Highly recommended.

Car – Volvo XC60.  The previous Ford KA had to be traded in prior to the arrival of the twins!

Help or not? My parents are relatively close by so are always on hand to help out!

Quick tip for other twin mums – Everyone says it but get into a routine as soon as you can, it really does help.

What advice would you give to your pre-pregnant twins self? Enjoy walking down the street and being completely un-noticed. People are fascinated by the sight of twins and often stop and stare or want to chat. It’s all very lovely unless you’ve had a bad night and just popped out for a pint of milk!

What advice would you give about sleep training? Do what works for you and don’t feel guilty about it. Having two babies at once is tough. The reality is you can’t give them as much attention at night as you would if you just had one to deal with so for me sleep training became a necessity.  It’s not practical to sit up all night rocking your baby to sleep when you have two of them.  People can be very judgemental about sleep training methods but they probably never had twins!

What advice would you give about breast/bottle feeding? Don’t feel bad if things don’t go to plan. I always imagined I’d be like one of those glowing women in my twin pregnancy books, baby in each arm happily breast feeding away. The reality was I spent the early days sitting in a hospital expressing room in a line of women hooked up to a pump extracting milk every 3 hours! Feeding the girls meant standing over the incubator and getting to hold the tube. When they were about 5 weeks old the nurses encouraged me to ‘put them to the breast’. Looking back it was an incredibly difficult time, they both still had tubes in their mouths and were suffering with reflux.  The machine alarms would often sound as they struggled to co-ordinate breathing and feeding. One day I asked if I could try to give Betty some expressed milk in a bottle; she took to it straight away and it was the most wonderful moment feeding my baby ‘normally’. I knew then bottle feeding was the way forward. I continued to express until I had both girls at home but after that I struggled to find enough time in the day. When I eventually stopped expressing the time felt right and I was happy with my decision.  The girls were prescribed a specialist formula which really helped with their weight gain so it was a positive move for all of us.

Do you have any advice on weaning? Take your time and don’t rush it. I took the advice given for premature babies to wean at actual age so the girls were 6 months old but looked just three months. There I was, propping up these tiny babies and shovelling puréed pear into their mouths. This stage took a lot longer than I imagined as they didn’t have the coordination for finger foods until much later. Weaning was definitely a challenge but it’s a great feeling when you get past it and know when you’re out and about you don’t have to worry about purees and can just give them a cheese sandwich!

Do you have any advice on potty training? Not got there yet but should be interesting!

Best bargain? We always found TK Max were great for cheap Mam bottles.  I use the 20% JoJo Maman discount from Tamba a lot.

Best thing about having twins? For us, an instant family! Being a first time mum and a last time mum all at once. Watching them interact with each other and knowing how special they are.  A true blessing!

Funniest thing the twins have done? They love running around our armchair playing peek-a-boo with each other and giggling which is very funny to watch!

I love Twickenham Twins Club because… The girls love the weekly playgroup and it’s good to get out and meet other twin mums. The Facebook page has been great for selling items, helping to de-clutter the house from twin purchases to make space for new ones.